Such a simple phrase: ADD. But when you think about the implications it can be to your child…

My son is in first grade now. All through Kindergarten he had a big problem with going to the bathroom in the toilet and not wetting his pants. AT least 2 or 3 times a week my husband or I had to go to my son’s school to change his clothes. It was very frustrating because anything we did or said, he would still wet his pants. That was one of those times that made me feel like I was failing as his mother in some way. But over the summer, he got a handle on not wetting his pants and so far, he hasn’t had any wetting accidents at school. (Knock on wood…)

But he has had an issue with being able to pay attention in class. And I’ve noticed that he has had a hard time keeping focus on simple chores like picking up his toys at home, etc. I thought it was just because he’s only 6 years old. But his teacher has been stating that he hasn’t been paying attention in class, he’s not completing his work in school, he’s getting really down and is hard on himself if he doesn’t understand something new that’s being taught (which is everyday…). Before this, I had it in my head that my children couldn’t have any disabilities because if they did (physical or mental), it would be because I failed in someway as a parent. I would always  associate my children’s disability as a part of my failing. But once I took myself out of the equation, I was able to focus on the important fact that I need to do what is right and best for my son. And that is to get him tested for ADD. Keith stated that he has a bit of ADD and so it’s not a stretch to understand that my son may have this as well. So we are going to the doctor’s next week to have him tested with a specialist and see if it’s something that needs to be taken care of with medication, or if it’s simply a problem at school with a wrong fit with the teach.

Here’s some research that I’ve done regarding the different types of ADHD:

Inattention symptoms of ADHD include:

  • Not paying attention to detail
  • Making careless mistakes
  • Failing to pay attention and keep on task
  • Not listening
  • Being unable to follow or understand instructions
  • Avoiding tasks that involve effort
  • Being distracted or forgetful
  • Losing things that are needed to complete tasks

Hyperactivity-impulsivity symptoms of ADHD include:

  • Fidgeting
  • Squirming
  • Getting up often when seated
  • Running or climbing at inappropriate times
  • Having trouble playing quietly
  • Talking excessively or out of turn
  • Interrupting

After speaking with the doctor about my son, we’ll hopefully be able to help him with focusing and build his confidence as well.